Realist vs Dreamer . . .


There are two basic types of believers . . . the realist and the dreamer. The realist sees himself standing with both feet on the ground facing life as it is and making the best of it. He has a hard time buying into the dreamer’s world because many times the dreamer has no foundation under his dreams, they are merely just hopes and wishes.

The realist is the glue that holds societies together. He seeks to improve upon the foundation already laid, and has no desire to try and decipher the ethereal plans of the dreamer.

On the other hand the dreamer lives in a world of ‘what if’s’. His feet are not so solidly planted, and his head is often in a cloud. He sees things as they are, but also what they could become if only . . .

The dreamer is the artist, the poet, the visionary, it is he who brings beauty and excitement to the world. His imaginings often become reality, but if they do, it will be the realist who does the actual work of producing them. Together, in a partnership that has extended throughout time, the realist and the dreamer have created the world in which we now live.

Here is a comment I recently received from a realist to one of my recent writings :
“War is a natural part of nature. If you go into nature you will see the struggle and fighting, everything fighting for life, death-life always in the balance. Heraclitus says “strife is justice” which is to say that through war everything becomes.”

My reply:
As to warfare being a natural state? Your half right. Given that in order to survive it sometimes means you must fight and kill an aggressor, (as in a home or land invasion). . . but warfare as a whole, especially in this day and age? No, nothing natural about it. . . war is an abomination, it happens because of corruption in the human condition. This is something that needs to change. . . .

Neither of us is totally correct in our assumptions, it’s just the way we perceive reality.

Another comment by a realist:
“Even in small tribes where people share everything , etc. it was found that those people are resentful and have negative, even hateful feelings for each other. They are forced into communal behavior in order for the tribe to survive and when asked they will admit this. I think your ideas are nice but unrealistic. I don’t believe that sharing and caring is our natural way of behaving”. . . . it goes on, but that’s good enough a picture of what the person was saying.

My reply to him:
What I see is a realistic view point of the human condition. What you say IS what is, . . . . the best duality can offer us is balance. . . . the question is: Do we have to remain in duality? Who says so?

Oneness is merely coming to the awareness that we are not only called to be our brothers keeper . .. but we ARE our brother. . . . pie in the sky to a realist perhaps, but an absolute to a dreamer. . . we are not all that we can be, not even close. . . one man sees God as an individual entity, one man sees God as a state of being.

Are these ‘realists’ dumb or misinformed? No, of course not. The realist sees things as they are, and no one, including me, can argue that what they say and see is not true.

I, on the other hand, am a dreamer. This is something I openly admit to, and even take pride (often to the chagrin of my wife) in. I am the one who imagines what could be were we, all of us, to make different choices in our lives. I see John Lennon’s song “Imagine” as something doable, not just a nice melody.

I have lived a pretty rough and tumble life, have many times witnessed guys, as well as myself, at their worst. I don’t believe any of us acted that way by instinct, as if we were cats instinctively torturing a chipmunk. We knew we could get away with it and chose to do it. If we could choose to be evil, we damn sure could have chosen to be good also.

Humanity gives us the option of choice that the rest of the animals don’t have, that’s the one thing separating us from them, and the one thing that has the potential of making us even worse than them.

So when I speak of these changes I envision, I know they are not here in the now, I know they are still pipe dreams, but I also know that without a doubt, the potential is there to make these things happen . . . and without a vision of them they never will.

Sitting within your castle looking out at the countryside and bitching about how bad the lawn looks will never help anything. Get up off your ass, go outside, grab a mower and fix it up . . . that’s all, it ‘s not all that difficult.

The key to success is to work on yourself first. You already have the power and the ability to choose a new path for yourself. That may be all you accomplish in this life, but it will be a great start in bringing the realist and the dreamer together in one accord. . . . imagine that!

Imagine there’s no heaven
It’s easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today…

Imagine there’s no countries
It isn’t hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace…

You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world…

You may say I’m a dreamer
But I’m not the only one
I hope someday you’ll join us
And the world will live as one

John Lennon


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